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We cannot love others until we learn to love ourselves. What does it mean to truly love ourselves? I personally would have thought doing everything I would want was part of loving me. Fine dining, nice clothes, shoes and beautiful jewelry, basically anything and everything luxurious and super comfortable. And I have heard people so many times say “ I am doing this for myself because I love me “ question is do we really say that just to justify a selfish act we are about to do and need an excuse like not caring for people because of their inconveniences? Or we really need to do something we really want to do but only way to do it is by saying “ I’m going to do this because I love myself” . What I do know is that whatever people decide to do is basically what goes on in their minds. Actions we all take is strongly motivated by what we think is right and decide on what course of action to take or at least we do what we think is right even if it might be wrong. Anyway the philosophical definition “to love oneself” is that which I do not know but what I do know is that straying away from any physical, mental, spiritual and emotional harm AND stress of any sort that you can restrain from and keep yourself away from is part of you loving yourself. Contextual meaning of physical, mental, emotional and spiritual harm or stress can vary from one individual to another and since I am no shrink here I am not going to go into details but I’m pretty sure this is a no brainer. And since restraining from some of this “harm or stress” can easily come off as being selfish and again I’m in no place to judge ethical standards here but I do think if an individual decides to take any course of action that they think is right, and that decision is genuine and not for other alternative reasons like to be selfish then they should go ahead and “ Love their selves” and if people around them perceive it as being selfish then I guess it’s time they fend for their emotions. But I would like to think that people we keep around us will want us to love ourselves because they love themselves too. It really isn’t rocket science. Analyze the people you keep around you.

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Part of who I am and what I am is what my mother taught me. Cliché I know and I truly dislike talking about myself. I am more of a listener than a talker, safe to say I do not really like the spotlight. But anyway Part of me is what my mother has taught me and shown me. And I want to share this because I wouldn’t be where I am mentally without her. Growing up she would always tell me what I am doing is to better myself and not her. Education and spirituality is for me to reap the fruits of my labor and not for her, because she doesn’t need it but I will. She will often ask where do you want to be 5 years from now? 10 years from now? And before I will answer she would ask again where were you 5 years ago? Where were you 10 years ago? If she hadn’t asked me that I would never had realized how time flies. I mean yes time flies but then when you actually go through that flashback you realize it was just the other day. But you have to ask yourself if you have grown from that person you were, and if you have changed for the better or if everything is static. The same way those years that you lived by came by so fast is the same way more years will pass by. Most of us just exist, blindly living through the days one after the other- days, weeks and then years without truly knowing what we want to do or who we want to be. But mostly generally having an idea of the future that sometimes unfolds in our favor and other times well Man makes plans and God makes his plans. Whatever you are doing RIGHT now is for you and most likely for your children and for some a family name, but if whatever you are doing right now hasn’t worked after so many tries try something new. Trying something new is different from giving up. But most important thing is to realize time does fly by and isn’t just a metaphor. Ask yourself where you 5 years ago? 10 years ago? And where do you see yourself 5 years from now and 10 years from now. I’m guessing not where you were or where you are.