In today’s world, it’s common to hear people say things like “I match energy, do me I do you” It sounds empowering at first, this idea that we can mirror what we’re given and protect ourselves by never offering more than we receive. But what happens when we let the behavior of others dictate how we show up in the world? What happens when we abandon our values in the name of self-protection?
The truth is, matching energy is often a reaction, not a response. It is driven by emotion, by ego, by the desire to be untouched. But I have come to learn that real strength, true power, comes not from mirroring others but from remaining anchored in who you are, even when the world tries to shake you.
Kindness Isn’t Weakness
There is a difference between being kind and being nice, and it is more than just language.
Kindness is rooted in truth, in care, in the desire to do right by others not because it is easy, but because it is the honorable thing to do. Kindness does not always look soft. Sometimes it means speaking up, setting boundaries, or saying no. It requires courage, not comfort.
Niceness, on the other hand, often hides discomfort behind a smile. It is about being liked, keeping the peace, or avoiding conflict at any cost. And while it may keep things calm on the surface, it rarely creates anything real.
I am called to be kind by my values, by my culture, and by my faith. But I no longer feel the need to be nice in the way the world expects. I do not owe anyone performative sweetness or silence. I owe God my integrity, and I owe myself peace.
I Do Not Match Energy
I have lived through storms. I know what chaos feels like. But just because I understand it does not mean I must become it.
I do not match every mood thrown my way. I do not meet fire with fire. I do not step down from who I am just because someone else does not know who they are.
Matching energy may feel satisfying in the moment, but I have learned it is often a way of abandoning yourself, of stepping out of alignment to meet someone in their shadow. That is not my purpose.
My energy is sacred. I choose peace not because I am passive, but because I am rooted. Because peace requires discipline. Because it protects the version of me I have fought to become.
I Choose My Own Rhythm
The world can be loud. Expectations, assumptions, and projections are everywhere. But I move differently now.
I do not rush to defend myself. I do not argue to be understood. I do not react just to prove I am not weak.
I move with intention. I speak from stillness. I choose my own rhythm, even if no one else hears the beat. That rhythm is built on faith, love, dignity, and truth.
I am not here to mirror dysfunction. I am here to disrupt it. Not with noise, but with grace. Not with ego, but with clarity.
Peace Is My Legacy
Everything I do is shaped by the memory of those who came before me. I will carry myself with manners, with values, with the quiet strength passed down through generations.
I will not speak out of rage. I will speak from reflection. I will not respond to provoke. I will respond to preserve what matters: my dignity, my heart, my peace.
Let others match storms if they wish.
As for me, I will remain the calm. I will remain the light.
And I will protect my peace at all costs.
Love always,
Umi
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