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Spiritual Boundaries: The Protection of Your Essence




There comes a time when being loving is no longer about how wide your arms stretch,

but how wisely you choose who gets to come close.


Spiritual boundaries are not about building walls out of fear.

They are about building gates of discernment out of love for yourself, for your purpose, for your peace.


When you consistently allow access to people who do not respect your presence, you’re not just being “nice.”

You’re telling the divine,

“I am okay with dishonoring my own essence.”

You’re saying,

“My growth is not urgent, my spirit is not sacred, and my energy is open to be mishandled.”


But this is the truth:

Your life is precious. Your presence is not casual. Your soul is not public property.


When you keep people close who have shown you again and again, that they do not love you, do not honor you,do not protect you, and instead, seek to harvest your light, feed on your effort,or even work quietly to pull you down

you are practicing self-abandonment.



That is not humility.

That is harm.


You must surround yourself with emotionally mature, spiritually grounded allies, people who value your wholeness, people who speak your name with reverence even in your absence, people who want to see your soul expand, not your energy deplete.


Be for everyone in kindness, in humanity, in service.

But reserve your intimacy, your sacred space, for those who genuinely care, not for those with subtle control games, unspoken resentment, or hidden agendas.


That is how you protect your spiritual wealth.

That is how you stay well in a world that pulls.

That is how you stay free while loving deeply.


It’s not cruelty.

It’s clarity.


It’s not being cold.

It’s being clean with your energy.

Pure with your energy.


It’s not arrogance.

It’s alignment.


Be picky.

Be precise.


Your life is not an open hallway for anyone to walk through.

You don’t leave your home door wide open for strangers.

You don’t let just anyone hold your child.

You don’t give everyone your banking information.


So why give everyone full access to your emotional world, your sacred thoughts,

your most tender dreams?


Just like your phone has a passcode, and your business has a security system, your spirit needs protection too.


Your emotional energy is spiritual currency.

Not everyone can afford it.

And that’s not your problem to solve.

That’s your wisdom to honor.


Love deeply.

Forgive freely.

But trust selectively.


Because love without boundaries isn’t love it’s self-erasure.

Compassion without discernment becomes an invitation for chaos.

And presence without protection invites harm.


You are allowed to say no.

You are allowed to close the door.

You are allowed to walk away without guilt.


This is the most radical love you can give to yourself: to know that your energy is is a gift ,and to guard it accordingly.


Love,

Umi






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